Why do some daily activities turn into a habit, while others do not? How to develop the habit of proper food, sports? The answers to these questions are well known to advertising specialists, and to some of the rules by which advertising campaigns are built, not less than a hundred years. How to use the experience of those who make us buy, to change their lives?
We often hear: you have to work on relationships, you have to learn an emotional response. “We are already doing well,” we dismiss the recommendations of psychologists. “And there is no time,” we think to ourselves. A very wise man, Dr. Yitzhak Calderon Adizes, talks about maintaining family relationships in such a way that one wants to follow his advice.
When we do not learn a lesson, we have to learn it again and again. When we finally learn the lesson, life gives us the next one. And these lessons will never end! For the time being, you do not even notice the obvious ... When I was ten, the biggest jewel in my life was a soccer ball.
We complain about the rudeness in the shops, the audacity in transport and aggression on the roads. But how often offenses await at home, when the closest people, those who, it seems, should protect each other, are rude and snapping cleaner than tram boors. An unexpected way to deal with everyday rudeness is offered by psychologist and writer Galina Artemyeva.
Modern parents - people deeply unsure of themselves, says psychotherapist Robin Berman. How else to explain the fact that they can not always insist on their own, discuss with their children their problems, as with friends, and even allow children to raise their hands? Here are the five main signs of such unfortunate educators.
You are not alone. Watching TV is the most popular pastime in industrialized countries: on average, people spend three hours a day watching TV, which is about half of their leisure time. For a life of 75 years, TV shows are spent up to 9 years. And of all the available TV shows, the series captures our attention most of all.
There is hardly a woman who never figured out the relationship with her husband and did not leave the battlefield, burst into tears. It is unlikely that there is one who has never coquettishly smiled at a pretty neighbor - just like that, from the fullness of feelings. Or, with the best of intentions, she did not deceive her husband: "Such men as you, even decorate bald heads!"
One of the secrets of Danish happiness - candles and proper lighting - we already discovered using Mike Viking's book about hygge, the traditional approach to life, popular in Denmark and Scandinavia. But hygge is not only cozy things, but also people with whom you feel comfortable and warm. Spending time with other people is an important part of the Hugge, but as a researcher of happiness, I can confirm that this is one of the most important ingredients of happiness in general.
There is such an unpleasant phenomenon - procrastination - this is what we are doing to cope with the anxiety that arises at the beginning of work on the task and in trying to bring it to the end. Someone, avoiding important business, begins to dig in small and not urgent ones, someone on the eve of the annual report recalls that he had long been going to make out things in the closet ... How could he stop postponing things for later and pull to the last?
Content: Raising babies (2-6 years old) Big boys (7-11 years old) Teens (12-18 years old) "Boys are not like girls, and we know that. However, from my point of view, all this talk is about that men and women are from different planets and have completely different brains, they don’t give anything good to their mothers. Do not forget that you and your son have much more in common than different things, "said New Zealand psychologist with 20 years of experience Nigel Latta, another whose book has recently been published in Russian.
Even in antiquity, women easily coped with several things at the same time: they cooked food for the whole community, were engaged in housekeeping, not forgetting to monitor the safety of their children. Modern women manage to be a successful business woman, while remaining a loving and attentive mother. How is this possible?
Psychologist Mikhail Labkovsky advises personally and reads lectures, speaks on radio and TV, leads a column on Snob, and now also published a book in which he says: almost all of us, especially those over 40, live wrong. We are not able to recognize our true desires, we are afraid to be happy. Is it possible to replace the word "I want" with "I want" in my life and why is it time to do it?
John Bowlby's attachment theory is recognized worldwide today, it is referred to in many psychological works, and on its basis it gives advice on the upbringing of children. And it seems true: the absence of a close adult in early childhood leads to emotional problems and may even make a person a criminal.
It often happens that, having entered into marriage, a man finds himself between two fires - between his wife and mother. The fact that two women can not share and how to learn to negotiate, says the psychologist Yevgeny Zotkina. - Why does the daughter-in-law with her mother-in-law develop relationships in one family, but not in the other?
I am the eldest in the family. When I was 6 years old, my sister was born. My parents said in advance that they would bring me a live doll. I was waiting for a gift. When I went to school in September, a ringworm epidemic began there. Almost everyone in the class was ill, including me. And in the midst of my illness, my sister was brought from the hospital.
Have you noticed that almost every topic in “Family Relationships” begins with a sound budget? I earn so much, my husband earns so much, in this or that property ... Or: I am on maternity leave, I don’t have my money, my husband gives out for a child and housekeeping. And then complaints and questions follow: is it possible to correct the relationship, or is everything going to divorce ... The psychotherapist Artem Tolokonin in his book “Secrets of successful families” asserts: nothing undermines relationships as much as distrust of spouses in financial matters.
This story is about a man of amazing fate - my grandfather's cousin. Vasily Dmitrievich — my great-great-uncle — was born in 1917. At the end of the thirties of the last century, after graduating from the naval school, Basil left for service in Sevastopol. Soon he met Svetlana - a kind, modest girl.
Why do some live married happily, and others have to divorce? It’s just that these families go through different stages of family life, which psychologists are well aware of - and everyone else doesn’t know. How many divorces could have been avoided if the husband and wife knew: their current quarrels and scandals are a regularity, and if they behave correctly, the relationship will only get better.
With the help of the author of the book about minimalism Irina Sokovyh, we have already dismantled the wardrobe, got rid of trash on the balcony and in the garage, began to buy fewer products and prepare more simple dishes. If it still seems that there are too many things around, we will tell you what other categories of objects can be reduced, and most importantly, how not to buy too much.
A specialist in the field of communication and interpersonal relationships, Steve Nakamoto knows what women want and can answer many other questions that concern them. He tells how to become attractive for men. Honest masculine gaze: diversity gives the edge of life and love. The more faces you have that attract men, the more they are interested in you.