FIRST YEAR: Nursing a baby to go to school well?
We finish the story about the physical development of a child under one year old - and about the abilities that a baby has in the first months of life, if they play with it and practice with it. Until now, it was about what happens to the baby when he learns to control his body. Tonus, body sensitivity, body pattern, rhythm - this is the “internal” basis for the development of a child’s physical activity “outside”, for its release into the “open space”. And in order to act in this space, coordination, accuracy of movements and the ability to keep attention on the target are necessary.
Accuracy and purposefulness of movements
From about four months already, a child learns to point with a finger, grab what he sees in front of him, throw objects. When he tries to take a specific object, crawl to a toy or to mom, his actions are aimed at solving a specific task. And if the process was important before, now the result comes to the fore. Purposeful actions always lead from somewhere, somewhere and for some reason, they have a beginning and an end.
Here the way of achieving the goal is not important, it is important that it is and attempts are being made to achieve it. Successful attempts fix a feeling of success in a child and allow you to experiment further without fear. And in this he needs our help and support.
Imagine that mother plays with the baby. He is watching the toy, reaching for it, but it is not possible to grab it right away. Mom puts the toy so that the baby had to crawl behind it. But on the way he gets distracted by something or someone. And then mom gently but persistently tries to return him to the task, again drawing his attention to the toy. And finally, he crawled and grabbed a toy - his mother immediately praised him, this is their common joy! So the mother in the game directs the child’s actions, teaches him to focus attention, helps to define the goal and achieve it, bring the matter to the end.
Frequent problem of modern children is hyperactivity and attention deficit. A child can be lively and quick, but his activity is purposeless and disorderly. He is not able to focus on one thing, to wait, to reach the goal, even very simple. At school age, these children bring a lot of problems to teachers and parents: we will not see them sitting for a long time sitting at a book or drawing, they quit any work they have started without even trying to finish it. The child can go for something, immediately get distracted and not walk: as if he suddenly “leaks” from the situation, “falls out” from the process.
In addition, in life you need not only to be able to focus on one thing and only have in mind your goal. The child will learn to take into account the goals of others and relate them to theirs.
Let's return to the mother who plays with the baby and stimulates him to reach out or crawl to the toy. She can complicate the task and show the child that she also wants to take this particular toy, and they start to race, who will grab it faster. Baby sees that mother also has goals that may or may not coincide with his own.
The ability to relate their goals and the goals of another, to understand that you are not alone in this world, that there are other people who have needs are the most important qualities needed in the sandbox, in the kindergarten, and even more so in school. If they are not there, having fallen into the peer group, the child will find himself in an uncontrollable situation: he will not understand what is expected of him, will not feel, will not “grab” what others do, and will not understand their intentions.
How to prevent problems? Nursing!
We considered the main components of physical development, which begin to fulfill their role from the first year of life: tone, body sensitivity, body pattern, rhythm, accuracy and purposefulness of movements. When the baby is good, we don’t think about them. But if “failures” occur, they will be noticeable in the way the child moves, walks, plays sports, plays, dresses, sits.
For example, a preschooler collects a railway with dad. With a reduced tone, we can observe his general lethargy, everything will fall out of his hands. If the tone is elevated, all items — wagons, rails, screws — he will hold too tight, risking breaking. Violations of the body scheme and tactile sensitivity will manifest themselves in disproportionate efforts: he tries to connect the details, but his movements are sharp, "torn", so all the time something does not work. And if the child has problems with the accuracy of movements, it will be difficult for him to get a screwdriver into the screw or put the trailer exactly on the rails. Attention is absent-minded, so he quickly gets bored with everything, and he gives up the barely begun work. Dad will need a lot of patience and strength so as not to get annoyed and continue to calmly play with his son.
At school, in such a complex skill as writing, a weak tone may not allow the child to confidently hold a pen or pencil in his hands, to control pressure. To derive a letter, he will have to work with his whole body - this is the result of insufficient “detailing” of the body pattern. A broken rhythm will lead to the fact that the letters will "dance."
How to prevent these problems? Studies of infancy, including the most modern, confirm that mothers always knew intuitively: physical contact with a baby in the first year of his life is truly a magical tool.
Out of habit, we give the word “babysitter” an ironic or negative hue: “What are you babysitting with him?”, “Stop babysitting!”. Many mothers do not fundamentally babysit with babies: they don’t consider it necessary or they think that “lisping” and “nagging” means only to pamper the child and teach them to do it.
In fact, the baby just needs to be nursed with it: worn on the arms, rocked, squeezed, caressed, admired. The kid is imbued with this love and, when he grows up, he no longer needs constant tactile feeding. He himself will increasingly begin to break away from his parents, more boldly and confidently explore the world around him and return to his parents' hands at the moment of danger. It is “nursing” that is the easiest and most effective way to form the optimal tone of the baby, give him a wealth of bodily sensations, create a body pattern, play rhythms and work out the accuracy and purposefulness of movements. The development of our child is literally in our hands.