What should a child be able to succeed in life: 10 skills
What to teach a child, in addition to the school program? What does he need in life for success? Just school knowledge is almost not useful, says psychologist Olga Yurkovskaya, author of the book "Education for Life" and a fierce critic of the school system. Her daughters are in family education, and the mother’s business coach has compiled for them a list of the skills necessary for a modern person. Here and speed reading, and Photoshop, and teaching skills and ... cleaning. In general, there is something to agree and argue.
For me personally, the most important thing is the skills to work effectively with text and information. The ability to extract the necessary thoughts from the stream, structure and process.
In second place is everything related to the computer and the Internet. In particular, competent detailed search, work with sites, layout and other irreplaceable skills.
Well-developed communication and presentation skills are also important.
Where is all this taught?
10 skills for success in life
There are many free tools available. You yourself use them. If you attach a little imagination, they can be adapted to the needs of children and included in the learning process.
Intellect card for the development of thinking. There are free services where children can structure each complex topic using an intelligence map. First, such an approach develops systems thinking. Secondly, it facilitates the memorization and processing of a large amount of information. And then, it's just a good habit.
It is possible to develop thinking, as my children do - in chess or in circles of logic games. Connect educational computer games (the main thing is to abandon them in time in favor of real life).
Work with a computer at a basic level. An indispensable skill for a modern person is a blind ten-finger seal. And it's not about the speed of recruitment, in 10-12 years it is not very important. But as long as the child masters the skill of typing with the help of the same "Solo on the keyboard", he becomes more attentive, reduces the percentage of typos and missing letters. In addition, the basics of spelling are learned in game form.
The simplest programs and basics of site building. This part of the interaction with the Internet will be appreciated by teenagers. So they will get the opportunity to blog, gain subscribers. In this case, they will have to master the work with site designers, at the simplest level - Photoshop program, as well as other editors. And even closely get acquainted with the basics of marketing, the creation of selling texts and viral copywriting.
Basics of negotiation. Both theory and practice are good in this direction. You can send your child to training in negotiations or public speaking. And you can trust a child (at any age) to negotiate with the staff in a store or cafe. Life is the most demanding teacher.
Skills effective work with information. In this direction there are many paid and free online simulators. I went the other way: I paid for courses on fast reading (available for children from 7 years old), as well as courses of memory and attention (from 10 years old).
Child's physical development not a skill, but I put it in this category. It is not necessary to give the child in professional sports. I was completely satisfied with the children's program in our sports center (swimming, water polo, gymnastics, dancing, karate, yoga, aerobics, a gym for children), three times a week in children's choice.
Now my daughters got carried away with break dance, the eldest even started winning international competitions only six months after the start of classes. That is, children's fitness gave her the necessary sports training.
The ability to write books, articles and advertising texts. Pick up distance courses for writers, journalists, and copywriters. If a teenager masters this skill, he will soon be offered fees for publishing.
It is too early for my children to undergo such training, but they are already browsing materials from the seminars "Free Journalism", "Glossy Journalism", "Copywriting" and others. The eldest has already started writing fairy tales and stories, and I helped her to make a site for publishing materials.
Teaching skill. This may be school subjects or hobbies. In any case, there are a lot of advantages in such employment:
- Deeper and more detailed knowledge. In order to teach someone, you have to dig yourself much deeper than usual.
- There will be a need to clearly and systematically express your thoughts. And it trains and skills of oratory, and self-confidence.
- Marketing approach Already in adolescence, your child will learn to monetize their skills.
So suggest that the child lead some free circle for peers. If desired, organize them easily. Or let him try himself as a tutor. Such a practice existed in pre-revolutionary Russia: high school students taught junior schoolchildren.
Knowledge of foreign languages at a good conversational level. This is a vital necessity (and not just a plus when entering a university): then you need to collect information from foreign sources, then read the book in the original, then navigate abroad ...
I came to the conclusion that a month of live communication with native speakers abroad is comparable to five years of studying a foreign language at school. Only being in the language environment will give you a knowledge of the language without tedious cramming.
Nevertheless, a good baseline can provide:
- computer programs;
- cartoons and movies with subtitles;
- audio courses;
- lightweight books with built-in translation.
Household and self-service skills I think one of the most important. First of all, the ability to cook and clean. If a child is able to serve himself and even help around the house - this is good from all sides:
- firstly, he feels himself adult, independent and more willing to take responsibility;
- secondly, the burden on parents becomes less. You can always either ask the child to help, or to do part of the housework of his daily duties.
Can teach special courses for children and adolescents - for example, cooking or sewing and knitting. And if there are no necessary courses? For example, where would teach children how to clean, repair clothes or shoes, repair household appliances?
You can negotiate a free internship for a teenager. Want your child to learn cleaning skills? Organize him an internship in a cleaning company! This is also not an easy skill. A professional cleaner manages to do the work in the shortest possible time, for which an unprepared person spends the whole day.
To get skills maintenance and simple repair of equipment, send the boy for individual training to the masters of home appliances repair, to auto mechanics in the garage, to the builders, finishers. To the masters of repairing clothes and shoes, finally! And you will find the fascination for the child, and save on specialized services.
6 skills that are not taught in school and courses
I also want to draw the attention of parents to a number of abilities that either fade away as children grow older, or do not develop at all if they are not engaged.
The ability to ask questions. Constant "why", "why" and "how" - the natural, natural state of children. But as they grow up, this trait, which drives the parents crazy when their dad is four years old, disappears somewhere unnoticed.
Often the fault of the parents. If the child expects that instead of a detailed answer, he will receive either a pretense or rudeness, he stops asking. But questions are the main way to get knowledge.
Ability to independently solve problems. A person who can break complex tasks into simple ones and then solve them one by one will cope with any work.
Want to develop this skill? Do not rush to the aid of the first call. It does not matter whether it is a question of putting on tights without success or solving a math problem. Of course, it is much easier to write an answer for the child and get back to business. Only as a result, the teenager gets used to shift the difficulties onto the shoulders of the parents (that is, yours) or another adult. And with age it does not pass.
Habit to complete the job. Any action you take may be a small project. Explain to the child that if he has taken on something, it is important to finish it.
The ability to find a vocation or a matter of your life. If you ask graduate students what they want to do in life, you will get sad answers. Most go to continue education in the university, which was chosen by parents.
I am by no means saying that higher education is not necessary. It is just that education imposed by parents, or “anyhow, if only higher”, is usually wasted along with the money and time invested in it.
If a child likes to do something, he will be able to do something really worthy of any “non-prestigious” activity. And you can be calm for his self-realization and harmony with himself.
Tolerance. The boundaries are erased, and your child will not be able to interact normally with the world, if at the sight of a person who is different from him in race, religion, sexual orientation, social status or having any physical disabilities, he will fall into a stupor. We are all different, with our own views and characteristics, and in order to interact, people need to learn to accept and understand each other.
The ability to be a person. Sometimes it seems to me that in seven decades of the Soviet Union the skill not to stand out and to be a gray mass entrenched at the genetic level. Go unnoticed, do not stick out, be like everyone else! Your "I" means nothing. The main thing is not to break away from the team.
At a certain age, a child has a completely natural desire to be like someone. But over time, it passes. However, unfortunately, not at all.
- Here, the children have already bought a car from my employee, they have built a house and planted a tree! And you do nothing at all and it is not clear what you are doing!
- You need to go to work! And you sit on the Internet or meet some strange meetings! Is this work? What will I tell people if they ask?
Such variants of parental statements are very common. It turns out that a person does not live his life, but some kind of "accepted in society". Yes, certain social norms must be observed (since we live in a society, not in a dense forest), but it is not the best choice to fully adjust our lives to the majority opinion!