Maternity tears, how do you deal with them?
For months you and your partner have been looking forward to this moment: the birth of your child. Finally you can take that little uk into your arms, finally you can start a new period in life or your family is a little bigger. But you can not manage to sit on that pink cloud? Do you have the feeling that you are sitting on a rain cloud and the tears of grief are streaming down your cheeks instead of tears of joy? You do not have to be ashamed, you are not weird, you suffer from maternity tears or the so-called baby blues. Maternity tears after Caesarean section are also common!
Maternity tears and baby blues
Maternity tears and baby blues are a bit tricky topics of conversation. That is because many women are ashamed of it. Why are not they happy with their child? We can already tell you that you are really happy with your baby. The feeling of sadness, irritation and dejection are not your baby or your child.
Maternity tears when?
Around the second or third day after the birth of your baby, the joy can be over in one go. This joy is exchanged by depressed feelings and tremendous crying. These feelings can last for 10 to 14 days. In most cases you feel better afterwards and you can enjoy the small ones again.
Should it last longer (such as months) and besides crying and feelings of dejection also have concentration problems, trouble sleeping and negative thoughts, then it is wise to contact your doctor. Possibly there is then post natal depression.
To resist the thoughts, it is sometimes nice to read a feel-good book and to escape the hustle and bustle of the day.
Making a child in your stomach and giving birth is a top performance that no man can do after you! And as with any top performance, your body needs to recover, only in case of a pregnancy the recovery is 10 times as heavy. This also applies to maternity tears after caesarean sections. The hormones in your body have to find their normal balance again and your body has to recover from the delivery or Caesarean section. You also have to deal with lack of sleep, doubt about you as a good mother, fear of failure and anxiety about your child. So it is not very strange that you feel slightly less jolly.
Also read the experience of a mother: I was depressed during pregnancy!
How do you know you have the baby blues?
If you notice the symptoms below, you know that you suffer from the baby blues, or maternity tears. This does not mean that if you do not have these symptoms, you have to feel guilty about any depression. After all, we all know what sleep deprivation and doubts about yourself can do with our state of mind.
- Maternal tears Crying (without direct cause)
- Bad sleeping
- Suddenly feeling yourself very sad
- Negative thoughts
- Mood swings
- Uncertainty and doubts about yourself as a mother
- Being hypersensitive
Tips for dealing with maternity tears
First of all: do not be ashamed! Maternal tears occur in no less than 40 to 80% of the women!
In addition, the following tips may help you:
- Realize that it 'only' lasts for a few days, then you will feel really better.
- Let it come over you, you can not do anything concrete to counter it.
- Take care of yourself, take your rest and let yourself be pampered. You have earned it!
- Do not ask too much of yourself. Are you tired? Admit it.
- Talk about it with friends and family and let them help.
- If necessary, postpone the maternity visits until you feel better.
Can you prevent maternity tears?
Unfortunately, the answer here is 'no'. You really can not do anything about it. It is the reaction of your body to the defecation. Do not be afraid that you're going to get it, because you do not know that in advance. When it comes then it comes and then you better just let it come over you. After a few days you will be the old one again.